How to Use Your Ego Mind to Your Advantage

Game over. Not for you, for your ego mind. And that’s good news, because what’s left when the ego stops running the show is you: your soul, the light inside you, free to enjoy life.

The ego mind isn’t something to destroy. It’s something to tame.

Your ego is a wild dragon

Picture a huge, wild dragon that nobody can control. That’s the ego left to itself. It wants to be the centre of attention. It wants to be praised. It wants you to be better than everyone else, and to prove it.

But that’s not what you want. Asked honestly, you’d just be great, as you already are, and let the right people notice. The ego can’t wait for that. It needs to be fed, and when you stop feeding it, it goes wild for a while, like an addict without a fix.

Then something shifts. The ego realises it can’t force you anymore: you’ll feed it when you decide to. It settles down, and your higher self takes the reins. From there your decisions come from clarity instead of confusion.

And now you’re riding a dragon. That’s the advantage: a tamed ego is powerful. It can lift you to places you couldn’t have imagined, as long as you keep hold of the reins.

Two questions before you act

Here’s what taming looks like day to day. The ego hands you an idea: let’s go and prove we’re better than them. Before you act, ask:

• How will this actually help us?
• How will it make them feel, and do they deserve to feel that way?

If the answers hold up, go ahead and show them your dragon. If they don’t, you just saved yourself a fight the ego started for no reason, and maybe a relationship. Because acting from the ego is exactly how relationships get ruined: if the other person can’t see that you’re capable of changing, they simply walk away.

And remember: it’s not one person with an ego problem. We all have this beast in our heads. Looking after it is our own responsibility, and treated kindly, it’s actually quite adorable.

In the video

I also get into why people who feel “endangered” by your growth are often just feeling their own ego threatened, and how that turns around for them in the long run.