How to Be Unbothered by People’s Opinions of You

What will the neighbours think? My parents? My crush? My friends? When other people’s opinions decide how you feel, they decide your mood, and your mood decides the direction of your whole life.

I had to make peace with this before I could ever record videos. Here’s what changed it for me.

1. People jump to conclusions, and it’s rarely personal

A lot of friends and family don’t understand my way of living, for example that I’m vegan. They’re convinced I’m harming myself, because “everybody else eats meat”. At first I fought them. Then I realised it’s nothing personal: they’re jumping to conclusions. Some of them do it out of pure love.

Someone can tell you you’re dumb. Will you let those words create a storm inside you? Ask what’s behind them. Some people are trying to help, some to hurt, some to provoke. Either way, nobody has the right to decide your feelings just by having an opinion.

And everyone in your life sees you in a certain way. If you care about every single opinion, you’ll spend your life on it, when you could have been forming your own. What matters is what you think of yourself.

2. While they talk, you live

While everyone is busy having you in their mouth, you’re busy working on yourself, building skills, exploring places and growing. If you do nothing with your life, you’ll obsess over their opinions, and end up living them out.

So do something. Meditate. Remember what you loved as a kid and do it again. Play football, tennis, go for a walk in nature. I started this whole channel partly to avoid that trap.

3. Fall in love with yourself

In the video I explain the last step: falling so much in love with yourself, dark side and imperfections included, that no opinion is worth your peace of mind. Some will call that narcissistic. I don’t care, as long as it makes me feel good.